remaaarkable replied to your post: In regards to recent post about women’s body image and self-esteem: I totally agree with you, but I think there is a distinction here. I think your brother is right. As a man, I don’t necessarily have a ruler out when I look at women seeing exactly how skinny or curvaceous they are. I think it’s important to put blame where blame is due: corporate and social forces. (Most) men aren’t the ones putting women up against this singular body image type, they’re being duped too, but not like wmnAlso this disregards the fact that (most) men are just as influenced by body image in media and society as most women—so what they will deem ‘attractive’ and ‘normal’ will come from those same sources that make women feel so inadequate.
maybe I could have addressed my brother’s statement more clearly in the comic, but my implied point was: it doesn’t actually matter what individual men think. Women aren’t doing this for them. Or rather that’s only one drop in a pail of issues. Maybe attractiveness only mattered for finding a mate back in the olden days, but that is pretty clearly not the world we live in now. There’s a lot more at stake here than just being able to get a date.
I love my brother so I tried to explain it to him using that story. He is going to be married soon and it matters to him because his fiance’s well-being matters to him. A lot of men don’t understand why they can tell a women she’s beautiful and her body issues don’t go away. If attractiveness only mattered for finding a mate, wouldn’t the issue be settled at that point? She has a mate and he finds her attractive. But it’s definitely not the end of that story.
Here’s the real problem, and it’s twofold:
1. attractiveness is rigidly defined, and
2. women are told that they have to fit that narrow definition of “attractive” in order to be worth ANYTHING, and not just in situations where physical appearance is relevant.
Women with body issues are fighting to be worthy of respect, to be worthwhile not only to the world, but also to themselves. Men need to stop considering themselves the gatekeepers of attractiveness, and stop assuming that everything women do is for the benefit of men, if they want to help. Understand that the struggle is about so, so much more.
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I look at my old drawings (the ones that are good) and I’m like what how
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I’m sooo sorry!!! I still have a really bad cough but I didn’t get any of the tummy issues. :/ I’m glad that you’re better now! Next time I visit, I’ll make sure that I’m sure not carrying any illnesses! xxlol don’t worry about it :P I blame the children! Children are worse than plague rats. You must already be immune to it or something. There’s a chance I picked it up from someone at uni or something though?? Who knows.
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You have gastroenteritis?? :/ Couple of my housemates had it last year. Make sure you’re getting a lot of water and fluids. Hope you get better soon. xxI’m better now! But yeah, it must’ve been something like that? I started feeling ill on sunday, then on monday it was pretty bad, and yesterday I still had a super dodgy tummy. I think I probably did catch it from you because none of my housemates have been ill recently? Never mind! :P luckily my immune system cleared it out quite fast (not as fast as I’d’ve liked, of course)
I was talking to my brother about women’s attitudes towards their bodies, especially regarding weight/fat, and when he said “most guys don’t notice/care about that kind of thing,” I tried to explain why it was a lot more complicated than that. I ended up telling this story.
Body image is something that’s so hard to talk about, and it’s hard to express body positivity without sounding cheesy, false, or overly simplistic. But I’m gonna try. This is only my own experience, and it didn’t magically cure me of all my body image issues - but it was a major turning point for me nonetheless.
Vietnamese photographer Thanh Ha Bui captured this incredible image in his parents’ back garden and, after spotting a line of super strong weaver ants marching across a branch, decided to test their legendary weightlifting skills. First experimenting with pieces of food and leaves, he eventually ended up with this incredible shot
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thanku for the tags lolI’m sorry was it tmi??
The finish of my Atlantic Blue Crab life cycle painting. I might fuss around with the type design a bit more, but it’s done for now.
SIPS AND SJIN ARE ON THE YOGSCAST LIVESTREAM TONIGHT AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
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